Second Date Advice

Deepen the Interest

Bring your “A” game - We all know first impressions are hard to shake. But it’s your second meeting that often seals the deal on whether you and your date are going to move forward or part ways. This is not the time to drop the ball on anything! It’s important to put as much effort into your second date’s glam and garb, as you did on the first. Maybe even a little bit more. Ladies, consider getting a facial the day before your date so your skin is at its best. Make sure your hair is colored & styled to its gorgeous, silky perfection. Dress sexy with a little smart, grab the heels, do the hair and make-up, and continue to knock your date’s socks off!!

Be cautious about getting too personal too soon - The quickest way to get ahead of yourself on a second date, is to let the conversation wander into territory that’s highly personal. You still want to maintain a sense of mystery, and allow yourself to unfold over time. Second dates are not the time to play Truth or Dare, confess your sins, or to disclose your secret fantasies! There is still plenty of “public domain” details left to discover about each other. No need to open the vault and reveal your classified information. Talk about things closer to present day, like recent travels, recent or upcoming events, etc. One way to be sure you maintain control over conversation content is to decide what you’d like to discuss before you go out. What are the unanswered questions left over from your first date? Focus on those and you’ll be less likely to regret saying too much.

Follow-up on first-date chat - A second date offers the chance to show you were paying attention last time, so take a few minutes to run through the conversations you had. What interests did your date mention? Did they express anxiety about an upcoming work-related project or excitement about or an upcoming trip? Bringing this information to mind ahead of time will help you later. For example, you might say, “You mentioned that you had a major deadline last Friday. How did that go? Did things get crazy at work?” When you remember that information and ask about it later, you create an instant positive connection.

Handle chemistry with care - Romantic attraction and sexual energy, which can show up anytime, are a lot like rocket fuel. The key is to keep away from the ignition switch until you’ve worked your way through the pre-flight checklist, your seatbelt is securely fastened, and you are sure you’re ready. In other words, too much physical intimacy on a second date often creates confusion at a time when you’re seeking clarity. A fundamental aspect to your second date leading to a third … and a fourth, is to pace yourself. Slow down, and enjoy the deliberate and delightful unfolding of the new connection you are making.

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